Please advise a wife who has just been told her husband is having surgery two days before surgery. I am hurt, to say the least. I am seeing a therapist, I didn't know how serious his situation was. I am 48 considered to be in the prime of life, my husband as well. I don't know what to expect. He is three weeks post op. I see his penis through his pants and I am terrified, angry and disguised all at the same time. I see him looking down at himself and I'm appalled. Please if anyone has advice or something to share for a wife help me to anticipate what awaits us. I am finding out there is no support for us women.